Happy Singles Awareness Day!

Happy Singles Awareness Day!

All shades of black (light skin vs dark skin)

If you have a twitter account, you will be aware of the ongoing twitter "beef" between the 2 shades of the SAME DAMN COLOUR!! Why? Because we are still stuck with this I must say disgusting mentality that states that "lighter is better".
For the love of all things Holy!!! We are one colour just different shades.
I saw a tweet that frankly pissed me off.
How can one mixed race girl have the confidence to say;

"Dark skin bitches are hating because if we were still in slavery times I'd be a maid in the house and you'd be stuck in the fields" 

Now I don't partake in arguments online or otherwise however I was so baffled and offended at the sheer audacity of that tweet I felt the need to reply with something witty. I thought long and hard about this because as much as I try to be I'm always that girl that thinks of witty come backs AFTER the argument is over and I'll be in the mirror trying out different ways to portray attitude. LOL!
So after rewording this God knows how many times I came up with this;

"If we were still in slavery times you would be a child of rape and your father wouldn't acknowledge your existence."  BOOM!

Say what you will, harsh? Maybe so. But just to show how much I hate confrontations or arguments, here's what I did next...blocked her! LOL! Call me what you may, possibly rhymes with "ussey" (yeah I'm pretty crap at rhymes) and its another word for cat.
Went off on a little rant there , anyway what I'm getting at is this right; why do we give others the satisfaction of watching us destroy and belittle each other. When have you ever heard or seen indians fight over which skin tone is more beautiful? Hispanics don't fight over whether Mexican spanish or puerto rican spanish is better (that might be a bad comparison but you get my drift).
Fact of the matter is beauty is in the eye of the beholder. How you present yourself is how people will take you. Us black women are past the dooms era when finding make up to match your skin tone was a chore. .........And queue bad Destiny's Child picture

I mean lets analyse how bad the make up is here... HOW is it possible that Beyonce with her caramel body has a face as white as a ghost and the other girls who are supposed to be chocolate are coming like overcooked and forgotten plantain?
Make no mistake I am a day one Destiny's Child fan (I mean REUNION anybody?....no?...anybody) however!!! The girls (well Kelly and Bey) look better now than they EVER did before. I know theres the whole malarky that Queen Bey has found the fountain of life which turns chocolate into milk (bleached) hmmm...that's a whole other posts I don't fancy getting into as of yet.

Different skin tones both amazingly beautiful in their own right.

Back to my original point, it is 2014 present yourself in a way that will not allow a soul to speak ill of your appearance that means foundation that matches your skin tone, I know we can now experiment with lipstick and eyeshadow colours and shades but don't come looking like krusty the clown. And if your team natural that's cool too nothing more beautiful than a beautiful black woman confident in her skin, but that does not give you the right to look down on us plastic fantastics. Aha!

Fact of the matter is black is beautiful no matter the shade. In the words of Wale and Chrisette Michele;

"From a light skin girl to a dark skin brother shade doesn't matter..."

It really doesn't. On that note peace love and all that good stuff...live love laugh

a letter to my unborn daughter.... part 1

To think I'm writing this, in 2014 who knows when I'm going to meet you, most importantly when will you be old enough to understand the messages in this letter from your mother.
Whilst I'm overly busy making my own mistakes, know that by the time I call you my own I promise to have it together....to the best of my ability.

I make it a promise to;

• Be your mother not your friend

During your lifetime you will come across more than enough friends, they will come and they will go, and that's what sets me apart, because I will be there when the going gets tough. Don't get it twisted now I'm gonna be your best friend but my job goes beyond the friendship we will share, the determination to keep you safe from harm from the moment you were in my belly will forever be alive.

• To be your rock

The world is a harsh place at times, and you can always count on my shoulder to cry on when it gets too much. Best believe I will bust a cap in somebody's lip if they hurt MY baby, but baby girl as you grow older and the problems become bigger than "he stole my favourite pencil" I will grow out of strength but you can rely on me for the best advice, you may not like it at times, heck you'll probably dislike me for it but I refuse to sugar coat it for you as much as that may hurt me.

• Always be truthful with you

"The truth will set you free" never underestimate the truth behind that quote. I can't say I love you but then lie to you. That is hypocritical! It will hurt at times but that's life the truth will knock you down but it will set you free. I will teach you to also be truthful and if I don't teach you anything but you remember to always tell the truth and love hard then my job is done.

• Love you madly,deeply, unconditionally.

I will be your greatest support, through your every plans and dreams but my love will warn you when these plans lead down an unrighteous path. Hopefully as you grow and mature into the beautiful woman I pray you become,  you will portray to the world this love that will have wrapped you up your whole life.......

Tbc