If it look like a duck quack like a duck act like a duck then quack quack bxtch your mans duckin!!

Ermmm guys analyse this with me please right..
If your man changes (we all know the changes I'm talking about), he hardly ever calls anymore, the attention is lacking, when you're together he seems distant, and he acts iffy that means hes needs are being met else where or hes "duckin"(cheating) right? Coz if it looks like a duck, act like a duck and sounds like a duck then don't fool yourself boo boo he's duckin.
Us girls need to start trusting our instincts more. Because more often than not deep down we're alllllwwayyss right
Oh no no no dont think just because he takes care of you buys your expensive weave and your infamous red bottoms (ma binnu) then that means he loves your raggedy ass... or that its ok for him to play the field "as long as he comes home to me every night" nah my girl open your eyeshadow infested eyes. In the words of Ciara herself "if that boy dont love you by now he will never ever love you". I mean what happened to that "independent woman" movement or self sufficiency?
*Naahh dont get it twisted now◆ the feeling when you come home to a pair of heels waiting for you on the bed and the cutest little black dress with a note saying "Whatever you have planned cancel it ,put this on and do what you do best im picking you up at 7 x" ◆ is out of this world!!! (Im not cray cray we all love the good things in life even me *chuckles*) HOWEVER!!!
Is there not more satisfaction in paving your own way through life? Lookoing at what you have and saying "yes,I did that all by myself"?
Are the females in our generation so insecure that they must rely on men and their gifts to define their own self worth??
I guess it can only be expected in a generation where celebrities, are snapped looking like something out of Vogue magazine 24/7. Us girls can only want to live up to that. However go do it for yourself don't wait upon ANY man to take care of you.
While some get their "own" others well take others own. But come on girls not to the extent of letting him walk all over you.... and treat you like "chips" as an old friend of mine would say.
Get yourself together what example are we setting the children we are yet to have?? Dont forget for a second we carry the next generation- (if you aint finna make no babies in the future then you simply wasting away...merrr just my opinion dont shoot me over it)- of young men, we dont want to raise them to take us back to an era where women were objectified and treated as disposable goods.
Bottom line is if your instinct tells you that he is duckin else where then likelihood is, he is. Its a sad reality.
Don't hold on because of the material goods he throws your way to keep you sweet. Because all you're doing is "settling". Believe me you'd much rather have someone who showers you with gifts because they love and adore you.
And on that note, live love laugh. Peace love and all that good stuff X.

Controversial blogger...

So earlier today I stumbled across a blog post titled "why I don't sleep with white guys" hmmmmmmmm...... See now I'm not sure how I feel about this as a young black woman because if you read into the post you pick up why she feels what she feels and her reasons as to why white guys are not of her preference. Her reasons are based entirely on the fact the she lives in a predominantly what you might call a "white city". The blogger who is actually mixed race talks about the fact that she feels uncomfortable being seen as the "dark meat" that the white guys in her town want to get their teeth into. *sigh.... See personally I don't think it's all that deep. AT ALL!!!! I mean where are these white guys that view black women as an "object of desire". Now hold on UP!! I am in NO WAY in favour of men regardless of colour objectifying women in anyway, but seriously where are these men white men hiding???
Regardless of the fact that white men have never really been on my radar, I've never actually dated a white guy...no actually scratch that a white brother has NEVER let me repeat NEVER approached me because he liked what he saw. For directions definitely *chuckles*

Personal experience: right so I was on a Uni trip to Switzerland earlier this year (February to be precise, freezing HELL LITERALLY!!!!) so as students do we played some truth or dare games. Long story short my turn came and  this white guy -(who for the record I think may have had a thing for me ;) maybe he had what I like to call JUNGLE FEVER) *chuckles* (think hard you'll get it ;) )-asked me the ultimate question "mabelle have you ever slept with a white guy" (baring in mind I'm the only black girl in the group this question was actually inevitable) now I wasn't exactly shocked per say but that question did take me back a bit. Thought about it and something clicked...not enough white guys can "step up" to a black girl. I mean I'd be slightly scared too! Come on the stereotype that is put against us black girls does paint a very scary picture. I'd like to consider myself "non-stereotypical" I mean we dress how we feel right and act in ways that invite people in rather than scare them off.
Its fair to say my circle of friends doesn't include white people and thats not by choice at all. Now compare me to my sister who has friends of all colours, ow look shes happily married to a white man.
Exposing yourself to different cultures and colours does have its advantages, but personally I have found that only black people "get me" does anyone else feel this??????

See i dont mind what colour you are as long as you treat me right, put it down good and put me back in my place when im out of it.(ow please each to their own dont judge me) well on that note love peace and all that good stuff.
Live Love Laugh x